Four methods to be a great mother-in-law

When my daughter marries I thought of her husband to buy a book from mother jokes. After all, every time you hear someone say, "Mother" They wait, they are a strong groan. No, we do not have a good reputation in our culture, and probably for good reasons. However, if you have a mother, or planning one day, here are some tips to help you to win the war against our common stereotype.

Be a Cheerleader.

I think I have a fantastic son-in-law, and I say to the people. I will my colleagues, your family and your friends know how I am proud of David. I speak as it is, to my daughter and a wizard, what it is like an owner of the company. One day, I am aware, however, that I can not say these things Dave personally very close. There is an old proverb that says: "If something is commendable, make sure it is heard." Now, I make a conscious effort to him and say how wonderful I think it is, and I am proud to have as a son-in-law. We all know that children need a lot of praise, but we sometimes forget that children still need to hear these good ideas that we have about them. It is even doubly important when you are married, in a family. As a mother you have a great chance, your pom-poms and cheerleading captain for your family.

Be Switzerland.

"I do not know how it up with him. My son is an idiot!" Honestly, these words are reassured, the actual I know a mother when it comes to his daughter. The marriage was somehow fragile terrain, at least in the eyes of the daughter-in-law, and to hear such a poisonous attack by her husband's own mother has helped things. In fact, within six months, the woman had left and divorced. "Really, my mother has an influence on my decision," the ex-wife told me. "If you hear a mother to speak, as their own child, that it really you think." I am not saying that some couples to divorce should not - and definitely cases of ill-treatment or person to a wedding, then someone must take the floor. But, as the beautiful mothers, we must remind ourselves that we have the power to influence the young couples in our family. If one of my children through a divorce, one day, I want to make sure my words are not the point for the changeover to such an important decision. If one of your great children or her husband come to you with the complaints about the other, prudence, wisdom and prayer and do everything in your power to a voice, even in difficult times.

You hear a form of art.

One thing I have noticed that my children grew up, more is not necessary that they physically May me as they did when they were young, but they seem to need me more emotionally and mentally. I spent many hours listening to stories of heartaches and struggles, and tried to offer the words to help relieve the gap with tears. Mary Alice is about 20 years old and my older a person has become, my mother and my friend. Marie is an excellent listener. Whether on the phone or in person when you know you feel as if it is inclined to listen carefully to what you're saying. Often, when you are done, about something that you say: "This is now what I think I heard you say ...", you can be sure that you are well understood. Mary Alice practices "deliberately availability", his focus remains focused on the person to speak and listen actively to what they say. In other words, Marie is listening to Mother Nature we all want in our lives - a person whose interest is, demonstrates the deep attention they give when you speak, your hopes, dreams and fears. When a person with all my heart to hear how my mother-friend is not, you know that you bother really, and what can make a lot of comfort and joy in your life. As a mother, we have the opportunity to both the mother and friend of our children, husband, and the art of listening to feed themselves that certain kind of relationship.

Porter pink glasses.

Nice Ness not comes naturally to me. Indeed, there are too many moments where is my natural tendency to focus on the negative aspect of things, or to the characteristics of the people and outside the habits and their failure to find. And for some stupid reason that I sometimes think it would be good, my observations negative impact on others. I remember something to say criticism once on one person, one of my sons enthusiastic and has immediately affected the presentation of stress and depression in the face. See his gaze gave me a pause to think and to me the words that out of my mouth. Yes, the girl can be a missing or two, but I thought at the time when I was young, and I failed with his mile in the Have-A-Lot-Learn category. I am concentrating on a small stroke negative benefit nothing. My father was disappointed that I missed what he told me a thousand times an increasingly important role - "If you have nothing to say, beautiful, says nothing". We all have our peculiarities and curiosities. It is easy to ignore it by ourselves and our own children. There is absolutely no advantage to what others under a negative, and even less the sharing of these deliberations. Negativity an addiction, and I now always to replace critical with many positive thoughts. The pink glasses can feel quite at first sight strange, but they are, if a value of port, especially for the beautiful mothers.

My goal.

One evening I spoke with a man sitting on a Boy Scout, mentioned that he had on his mother the house the next day to repair. I asked him whether it sense the additional workload. "Oh no!" was the quick response. "I love my mother-in-law. It is a wonderful person." Blessing What if one day my own children so I thought. Would not it be nice to dispel this entire old mother, jokes, and have a son and daughter-in-law, the loud, as they are happy in your life? With our hearts in the right place and the practice by some positive features, I have no doubt that we all.